"Yes, Mistress"

When the "switch" flips

The topic of D/s dynamics fills me with more joy than I could ever express.

I’ve made a career through educating, researching, and writing on the topic, have gone into detail about how I fell into the role of a kink-affirming sex educator and sexologist, and spent 5 years producing The Submissive Next Door Podcast.

But, the one element I have rarely talked about is my time and experience as a Dom.

Over the past year or so, I’ve felt a pull to express that side of myself more and more… It’s difficult to articulate just why that is, but a significant part of my being is undeniably Dominant. As a certified holistic sex educator, (i.e. - the WHOLE self, including the sexual, emotional, physical, and spiritual aspects of a person’s being must be nurtured), I felt it was time to open up about this deeply personal side of myself.

Those who know me or have listened to the podcast know that in my current relationship, I’m submissive, and we started our relationship as very contractual. By sheer fate, we found the missing pieces of ourselves through our dynamic and knew we wanted to make our dynamic permanent.

But that doesn’t mean I identify as 100% submissive.

I’m a switch, and prior to my current relationship, in all my prior D/s relationships, I was the Dominant.

So, how did I spend the majority of my life as a Dominant with male submissives to flipping the “switch” into blissful surrender in my current relationship? Do I still indulge in the other half of who I am as Dominant? How? What does that look like? Why?

Settle in… because I’m about to get very intimate.

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